Holiday Giving

Many of you may relate to a common theme around ‘giving’…such as giving out of ‘obligation’.

When we give out of ‘obligation’ the common feelings associated with it are ‘resentment,’ ‘pity,’ ‘anger,’ ‘fear’ (as in ‘if I don’t give a present, this could happen…’)

These feelings carry – as you could imagine- negative energy that would boomerang back at us in some form or another, bringing more of the same negative experiences.  Would you want a ‘gift’ from someone who carries such energy? If no, then, how do we deal with these feelings?

First, notice these thoughts and feelings; by noticing them, we are bringing them to surface (remember, the truth shall set us free).

Long deep breaths are essential.

Second, make a conscious decision to feel better; it is like changing the channel; something like “Hmm…yep, I hear you, it sucks to feel these negative emotions, but I want to feel better.  Despite of feeling this way, I love and accept myself anyway…and I *now* intend to feel better”…

*Nobody said it’s going to be easy.  Often we experience a resistance during this process;…if that happens notice this resistance to ‘change’ the channel…and actually NOTICE ‘choosing’ to stay ‘mad’…don’t judge it…just set with it for a bit…

Third, once you feel ready to ‘change’ the channel, bring ‘appreciation’ as your tool.  I find appreciation essential into clearing a difficult emotion.  Be open –even if for a moment – to appreciate that this person/situation that triggers you so much, might very well be your ‘best’ teacher…

I say to myself “Although, I don’t see it now, I am open to feel the appreciation of whatever this person/situation is trying to teach me about myself…”

With that thought in mind, your ‘gift’ has cleared the negative energy …and it has become probably the most important ‘gift’ to yourself…:)  Merry Christmas!!!!