Many of you may relate to a common theme around ‘giving’…such
as giving out of ‘obligation’.
When we give out of ‘obligation’ the common feelings
associated with it are ‘resentment,’ ‘pity,’ ‘anger,’ ‘fear’ (as in ‘if I don’t
give a present, this could happen…’)
These feelings carry – as you could imagine- negative energy
that would boomerang back at us in some form or another, bringing more of the same
negative experiences. Would you want a ‘gift’
from someone who carries such energy? If no, then, how do we deal with these
feelings?
First, notice these thoughts and feelings; by noticing them,
we are bringing them to surface (remember, the truth shall set us free).
Long deep breaths are essential.
Second, make a conscious decision to feel better; it is like
changing the channel; something like “Hmm…yep, I hear you, it sucks to feel
these negative emotions, but I want to feel better. Despite of feeling this way, I love and accept
myself anyway…and I *now* intend to feel better”…
*Nobody said it’s going to be easy. Often we experience a resistance during this
process;…if that happens notice this resistance to ‘change’ the channel…and actually
NOTICE ‘choosing’ to stay ‘mad’…don’t judge it…just set with it for a bit…
Third, once you feel ready to ‘change’ the channel, bring ‘appreciation’
as your tool. I find appreciation
essential into clearing a difficult emotion.
Be open –even if for a moment – to appreciate that this person/situation
that triggers you so much, might very well be your ‘best’ teacher…
I say to myself “Although, I don’t see it now, I am open to
feel the appreciation of whatever this person/situation is trying to teach me
about myself…”
With that thought in mind, your ‘gift’ has cleared the
negative energy …and it has become probably the most important ‘gift’ to
yourself…:) Merry Christmas!!!!
