How often do we make a decision and feel good
about it;…yet soon after doubting voices raise
up in the background saying something like “We need to accept people for who
they are…” raising thus, doubts within ourselves…
But how can we accept someone for who they
are within our space, when whatever we witness is a breach of personal
integrity? Is being quiet and ignoring a behavior that does not feel good to
us, the right thing to do?
Well, not long ago, I made some hard decisions
to let go of some “friends”…I felt good about it for a while…but soon after, doubtful
thoughts came in full force…In these moments, I seek God for gaining clarity
and confirmation…
Within a couple of days, while watching an episode
of The Closer show, I had a Eureka moment!
The plot was about the murder of a man described
by his close family and friends as a disappointment, a liar, addicted to
gambling, ruining anything he touches, etc…Nobody regretted his death…
It turned out that he was killed by his “best
friend”…The one who always “stood” by him, bail him out from any
disaster…etc…So, what happened?…Remember, he was a gambler…and one of his
gambling rituals had been to play his family members b-days twice a week…with
borrowed money…for over ten years…
And you guessed right, once again the “good
friend” loans him the money to make yet another bet…and he wins hundreds of
millions…
When this “good, reliable friend” was asked why
he killed his so called “best friend”…he answered…”I was not going to let him
be a millionaire with my own money…he didn’t deserve it…he used people all his
life…he is a waste to society…”
In this story, the reliable friend absorbed all
the negative energy/kharma from his unlikable friend…turning all resentment
accumulated over the years into rage…
Wow…this was my confirmation…
How often do we entertain “friendships” …we hold
onto them…beating ourselves up if we resist…and yet, when we think of this
“person” and when in contact with this “person”…we feel like all the energy is
sucked out of us…feeling bad about ourselves (for apparently judging them, not
being supportive) and of course, by what we are enabling through our mere “silence”
to what we are witnessing…
I admit in the name of “niceness” and desire to
be “accepted” I entertained often such friendships…these friendships build
resentment within ourselves…and slowly, slowly we live out of lack of
integrity…”e.g, We think/feel one thing…but we Do another…”
And here is the key…how we let go of these
friendships makes all the difference…and the earlier we are able to recognize
it, the better the results…
By blessing their path!…Yes, that’s right…
What we bless in another, we bless for
ourselves…
So, letting go of someone we have absolute no
control over…(neither we want to)and blessing their path, we allow healing to
take place for ourselves and better chance to inspire change in them…Inspiring
change only comes from leaving congruently in personal integrity.
